Hi everyone! Murphy here again. It’s been a while since I’ve posted on of these theories on this blog, huh. Sinja is really thriving these days with Snb and all~ This time I will be focussing on the Volume 34 Paper, the Love Counselling Session with Pisti. (SEE BELOW)
The raws were posted by someone on twitter or tumblr? If someone knows please let me know so I can credit them~ Thank you!
The translation of Ja’far’s piece reads:
Ja’far: “I’ve been so busy with work and my vision is getting bleary. I now suffer from Gestaltzerfall when reading the 恋 in 恋爱.”
Pisti: “It’s going to be alright! It’s probably has something to do with your age as well… never mind, sorry, forget what I said.”
Credit: @hayarashi
I’m sure every SinJa and Ja'far lover was confused when they read this. We finally get a peek into Ja’far’s love life but we are given this weird content instead? What does Gestaltzerfall mean? Why does this affect only Ja’far?
Well, I have yet to see a proper post detailing this which is why I am going to try my hand at analysing it today! Everyone please bear with me! (Long post ahead, watch out!!)
Wow that’s a lot to think about! I agree with your idea that Ja’far might not be able to recognize the feelings he’s held as for so long as love because they aren’t exactly the same as they were when he was younger. Of course Pitsi (our love expert) understands exactly what he’s talking about and tells him not to worry because *puts on social scientist glasses* love types evolve the longer people are together.
I would say Ja’far is probably thinking that the question is referring to romantic love, when in reality that isn’t the best definition for his and Sinbad’s relationship. I would define their relationship as Storge, and specifically Ja’far’s feeling as Agape.
In Social Science Storge is defined as “growing slowly out of friendship and is based more on similar interests and a commitment to one another rather than on passion [x]. Storgic lovers sometimes cannot pinpoint the moment that friendship turned to love [x].”
Agape is defined as “the purest form of love, derives its definition of love from being altruistic towards one’s partner and feeling love in the acts of doing so. The person is willing to endure difficulty that arises from the partner’s circumstance. It is based on an unbreakable commitment and an unconditional, selfless love, that is all giving. It is an undying love that is full of compassion and selflessness [x].”
So according to theory a healthy relationship in which both partners are committed to the others well being can evolve from Romantic to Storge. However not all romantic relationship become Storge and not all Storge relationships are Romantic. Nevertheless it is still a form of love!
On a slightly unrelated note, gestaltzerfall seems a little like what happenes to some dyslexics with certain words because of forced memorized spelling. Also probably why I was strongly advised not to take Japanese in school.